Monday, April 30, 2012

Answers and more questions

Landen's meeting went wonderful! Everyone was very positive and understanding and answered my questions completely. The plan for him is excellent and I'm confident in the care he will be getting, even in 3rd grade. I'm not sure what the future holds for him but I do know that he will be getting all the support he can. I met his special education teacher today also and she is amazing. She is super nice and has so many things in common with Landen, they have really got a strong bond already and that doesn't happen often. I have confidence in them.
To get to an IEP, there are many tests that are done and criteria that needs to be met. During the testing that is done, Landen's scores make it very likely that he is on the Autism Spectrum. But that being said, they do not have the ability to test him further to verify..Because he has so many other disorders that have similar "symptoms" its hard to tell what is caused by what and there is that chance that he is on the spectrum and he might be misdiagnosed with something else. This is where the waiting game starts again because I'm waiting for the neuropsychologist to call me back telling me that the insurance has approved for testing.
So, the testing didn't really answer any of my questions but its a place to start.

Sunday, April 29, 2012

Meeting of the Minds

Tomorrow I have Landen's meeting to set up his IEP and go over the testing that they did on him. I'm nervous because I'm not sure what is going to happen or what is going to be said and I'm relieved that we are finally going to be helping him in school. Like my last post stated, we have good days and bad days. I'm thankful for the good days and work hard to stay positive during the bad days.
The week before last, he had a great week! No issues at all! Then came Monday and I had to go in to get him because he was having a meltdown in music. He loves music! But what happened was they had to fill out a sheet for a field trip they were going to be taking on Tuesday, One of the questions was very broad and he didn't know how to answer it. Instead he shut down and started refusing things. Once we got it figured out, he was fine. Had a great rest of his week! Sometimes, just when I think I get him figured out, something new happens to stir things up again.
I'm a tad nervous about this meeting also because I've never experienced anything like this and I don't want to end up on the chopping block. I hope that I get the answers that I need about the services for him. I will try to make a post tomorrow after the meeting.

Sunday, April 22, 2012

More than just one good day!

We had a good week at school!!! It was awesome! No phone calls, no emails, no staying after school. It was wonderful! On Tuesday we met with his psychologist who, after talking with me about what has been going on, decided that maybe we needed to try a different ADHD medicine..You know how I feel about med changes in school but I felt comfortable with this decision. So the next morning, we started Adderall. Things were quiet the rest of the week. I emailed the teacher and asked her if she had noticed a difference and she said that he seemed to be focusing more and that he wasn't having to leave the classroom as often and they were really working with him on asking for help. These are all huge steps! I'm excited and glad that he had a good week. Friday after school he had a huge meltdown because he wanted a kid from school to come over for a playdate. I sent a note to school for this kids mom to call or text me and I haven't heard anything yet. Landen is really upset about it. I'm trying to ignore those thoughts in the back of my mind that tell me that they don't want their kid playing with mine, who I'm sure they have heard all about. And probably not good things either. It hurts that he suffers in that way. I'm not taking the good times for granted because, as we all know, it could fall apart tomorrow. But for now, I will relish in the fact that we accomplished one whole week of school with no problems!!!

Tuesday, April 10, 2012


My cheeks sting from tears..Landen had a terrible morning! He was on Spring break all last week. I didn't give it much thought, actually. I didn't think that when it was time to go back that he would have issues with it. He was supposed to start back yesterday but he was sick Sunday night into Monday. So I kept him home from school and took him to the doctor. He has a bad sinus infection.
So back to this morning. 730am comes and its time for him to wake up. I start waking him up and immediately he starts in with "I'm not going to school today!!" We went back and forth for an hour before I got him off the couch to get his clothes on. I kept asking him why he didn't want to go to school. He tells me the same things over and over: "It's boring! I hate school! I don't want to go! Its too loud!" I'm not sure what to do with any of these things he tells me. I tell him that sometimes we all have to do things that we don't like and his job is to be at school. He doesn't seem to care. So I try taking things away, the PS3, Basketball, he always says "That's fine, I'll do blah blah blah instead". He doesn't seem to care if I take things away or any kind of consequence for that matter.
So after we got his clothes on, he refused to take his medicine. He knows that if he doesn't take his meds, we don't leave the house. So that was another 15 minute battle all while screaming at him that he hates me and he doesn't want to go to school. I repeatedly told him that we would go talk to the Mrs. M. the school psychologist.
So we finally get into the car at just the time school is starting. When we get there, he says he's not staying and not doing anything all day. He actually walked into the school with me, which I thought he wouldn't do. We go to talk to the psychologist about him not wanting to be there. We tried to entice him with many different options but he said NO to everything. So we got the Teacher Leader who went into the boring room with him and said that he could help him with some school papers. He said no. I practically had to drag him into the room and left him there kicking and screaming and yelling.
I left in tears and called my mom at work.
We had gone for about 30 minutes when I got a phone call from the school. It was Mrs. M. She told me that Landen was still in the boring room but he wasn't getting violent, which is HUGE! But was refusing to do anything. I got another phone call at about 1130 and it was her again telling me that before 10am, he went back to class. The teacher leader said it was like a light bulb going off and he just wanted to go to class ( I have no idea what happened there) She said they had checked on him several times and he was doing fine.
I'm glad he is doing fine and back in class.
I can't help but still be heartbroken and wonder when he is going to fall to pieces again...