Saturday, July 9, 2011

That's some big talkin'

Before I knew what the actual issues were with Landen, I noticed something "interesting" about him. It wouldn't happen all the time but when it did, it always confused me. Landen would talk about "remember that time when I was hit 10 home runs and my team won the championship?" I would respond with "Oh, on Playstation or in the backyard with Nick?" His answer, "No!! When I was younger and I played professional baseball, REMEMBER?!"
I couldn't for the life of me, understand why he believed such things. I would go along with it to keep the peace though. Now I understand. Its called grandiosity. In children it's where they they think they are better than others at certain things, think they have powers that can change and affect things, claiming to be smarter or stronger or faster than everyone else.
I know kids tend to do this a lot. The difference is that most kids are just "bragging" or "gloating" but bp kids ACTUALLY believe it..and most of the time, there's nothing you can do to change their minds but agree with them. Its kinda like when a child is using their imagination pretending that a stick is a hot dog, you roll with it. Same kinda thing when it comes dealing with grandiose thoughts, you sometimes, just have to roll with it to prevent a rage.
It can be embarrassing at times, especially when your child is telling strangers these grand things about themselves..The looks we get from others. But, as with other things, I'm learning to let it roll off my shoulders. I'm tired of caring what people think about me or my kids. Unless they live with me and have a Ph.d in child psychology, they need to keep their mouths shut.