Saturday, March 17, 2018

4 long years!

It has been 4 long years since I made a post about our life.  Landen is almost 14 years old and finishing up 8th grade.  The rest of elementary school went without an issue and at the end of 6th grade,  his 504 plan was removed with the option of having it reinstated,  if needed.  When 7th grade started,  the shit hit the fan. He was struggling with hours of homework a night,  an  inability to understand what was important and an unreal amount of stress for a child.  I battled back and forth with the school for months before coming to an agreement before Christmas break.  The rest of the year was a bit better but still a struggle.  In 8th grade,  we met right at the beginning of the year and Landen voiced what he needed in a very impressive manner.  He's taking two foreign languages and has a 3.6 GPA right now.  He has registered for high school classes and has had a much better year. We've been in therapy since last summer with a great therapist that actually relates to him.  Sadly,  we are coming to the end of our time with him.  Landen has been responding well to therapy. But,  actually,  the person who has needed the most help from this has been me. I've had to learn that just because i needed to shelter him from things when he was younger because he didn't know how to handle his emotions,  doesn't mean that I need to continue that same thing now.  I want him to grow up to be independent and have a successful life.  I'm still working on helping him do just that.

Friday, March 14, 2014

It's been quite a while!!

It's ironically funny that when things are going good, people tend to stop talking about it. I'm very guilty of doing so. It was October when I last posted. Since then, we have made it through Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and Valentines Day. All without any issues. Every day he is doing wonderful and I'm so very thankful. Thankful that his medication continues to work, thankful that he is growing and learning how to handle his emotions better and thankful for the wonderful team he has at school that ensure he is successful every day.
Parent teacher conferences were this past week and he is nothing short of amazing! He is doing well in all subjects and is doing testing in the classroom, which was difficult last year. He's giving speeches in class and showing empathy to others..HUGE things to those who are on the spectrum. I'm so proud of where he is at now. I know at any time we could slip back into a dark place. I wait for those times again as I know we are not "home free". He makes me so happy and he really is a great kid!!
Just wanted to update things since it had been a while. I'll try to post more often but with school, it doesn't leave me much "blogging" time.

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Fourth Grade

It's been a while. It's been a long while. Summer came and went and it was busy. It went by too fast. I didn't get to do half of what I wanted to do with the kids. But it was good. The mood was good. We started fourth grade this year and it has been fantastic!!! His teacher is wonderful and she loves him. He is reading  so much now. He always has a book in his hand. He got the highest grade possible in Spanish Communications. I love it. I cried. I cried at his conference. I cannot believe that we have gotten here. He's a great kid. I always knew that but sometimes it was really difficult...But now, when you look at him, watch him, you know that he is a good kid! He's funny and he is learning so much. We have little small issues, or blips on the radar as I like to call them, but it's nothing big, nothing to write about. I am just so proud of him. I cannot express it enough.

Thursday, May 30, 2013

End of 3rd Grade!

This was a fabulous year!!! I cannot believe it! There were two issues, very small compared to where we have been in the past. I'm so proud of him! His IEP meeting went very well and there was nothing but good things to say. It's actually a little surreal for me to sit here and type this knowing how far we have come. Looking forward to our summer together! I hope it doesn't go by too fast.

Monday, March 4, 2013

Looking back

At this time a year ago, we were in a much different place. Landen was unstable and in partial hospitalization. I was completely stressed with life and not enjoying it much. He was unstable all the time, I couldn't leave him alone with anyone for fear of a huge rage and/or meltdown. It was exhausting. Fast forward to now. He's successfully stayed in school all year, so far! No major issues..A few minor meltdowns and some difficulties getting to school but I'll gladly take this over what we had last year. I'm very proud of him, he's learning more and more everyday. He's actually enjoying reading chapter books now, which is HUGE!!!! We still have sibling rivalry issues and most of the time, its the little sister picking on the big guy!
He's now slept in his new bed for a week! This makes for the first time that he's slept in a bed since October of 2011!!! He seems to be sleeping better and he's not waking up much at night anymore, which seems to help his moods.
I'm thankful for where we are now but also from where we have come. Without those tough roads, I wouldn't stop to enjoy the little things now. Everyday he continues to amaze me in some way. I love him forever for that.

Sunday, January 6, 2013

New Year

Tis a new year in our household. Doesn't really mean much..Tomorrow is his first day back at school since the 21st of December..Feels like a VERY,VERY long break..He seems to be happy about going back. I'm hoping that continues into tomorrow. We all know how long breaks don't usually do well with him. I'm hoping that bedtime is in our near future and he gets a good nights sleep.
I'm hoping that the 2nd half of the school year was just as good as the first (minus the last day before break). I seem to be on the same page with the staff in starting fresh and letting what happened go.
One day at a time. That's what we are going to do this year. Take one day at time and not worry about the days ahead of tomorrow.

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

We ALMOST made it!!!!!

At 2:25pm on December 21st, I got the call..The call I've been expecting every day this school year but never got. It was the teacher leader from Landen's school. Landen was having a meltdown. I didn't get all the details til we were on our way home. But, he missed out on his Christmas Party :-( When I got to the school, he was in the boring room. I went in to talk to him. He was sobbing on the floor, under the desk. I ask him what happened and he tells me that So and so and so and so always get him in trouble. He then tells me that he won't leave until he gets to take home the stuff from the party. I go to his class to talk to his teacher. She is super upset that he had a meltdown and didn't get to participate in the party. We talked about what happened and the kids involved.
It was a pretty messed up day and you know how he thrives on routine..There was no routine..Actually, the entire week was messed up with his teacher being gone on Tuesday and then a snow day on Thursday and finishing up with a party on Friday. Apparently he overheard someone talking about him to a fellow classmate so he spoke up to that child..Said child told Landen to be quiet, no one was talking to him. He got mad and said well, you're talking about me so I can talk to you..she said no, you can't so Landen proceeded to push her..Another classmate tried to stop Landen from pushing her and then Landen turned on him. This is all happening during a 6th grade/staff volleyball game, by the way..A teacher steps in and separates Landen from this other child..Landen gets angry and leaves the gym, proceeds to go to his classroom and completely destroys it..He flipped all the desks and tables in the room and tore stuff off the wall. He hasn't had an outburst that bad in a very long time.
But, it was the last day before break so we ended with positive thoughts and will be moving on come the new year at school. It sucked that it had to happen and that he had to miss out on something fun because two kids know how to push his buttons and he hasn't learned the coping skills to deal with it..